Coffee Shop Restroom Problems

I am a big fan of coffee, and I also love to write. And even though I am not one for loud noises, unless it’s my music of course,  I tend to focus better in places that have a lot of hustle and bustle. It might not make sense, but it’s true. 

There is one downside to coffee though. Now before any other coffee lovers get offended, coffee is an inanimate object. It’s has no emotions. It can be hot or cold, bitter or sweet, and strong or weak. Words use to also to describe people and their characteristics. But coffee is just some ground beans, with water, milk and sometimes flavors with either steam or ice. It doesn’t have a brain or how most people like to say, a heart.  SO just because you love something does not mean it will love you equally back. My point is that I might love coffee a lot but within half an hour of drinking it, I have to pee. 

So I took my headphones out, and let the loud music, hustle and bustling or people and their chit-chatting, and So I got up and headed over to the single use public restroom of Starbucks. And as anyone would do, I knocked on the door and tried my best to hear if someone was there or not. BUt I didn’t hear anything, not that i really could have over the coffee shops sounds. So I tried the door figuring it would be locked if someone was in there.

The lady did indeed lock the door, and in a louder, more annoyed tone said she would be right out. I quickly apologized, and leaned against the wall, and crossed my arms trying not to let her tone get to me, since well I really didn’t hear her at all before.

Working at a coffee shop myself, I understand how some people don’t understand. Most people can be very patient, understanding and pretty nice. And some people, well are not and like to make sure you know how stupid you can be for not being able to hear, understand, or read their minds, or working somewhere where they don’t agree with how they are done that you have no control over. So I understand some people have some issues. 

She comes out all annoyed giving me the dirtiest look and sighing angrily at me. Almost as if to wordlessly say, “I said I would be right out, but you tried the door anyways as if you could hear anything or something.” In my head I’m like, “well okay then.” Then hurry into the bathroom. I soon came to realize that the bathroom is much more quieter than the rest of the coffee shop. SO the lady probably thought that she was loud enough, and didn’t realize that outside of the restroom it was much louder and harder to hear. 

But this all leads me to one question: why aren’t public, single use, restrooms more obvious when it is occupied? Why can’t the word: “OCCUPIED” appear like it does on a porter potty when you lock it? Or have the door fully close only when it is locked? or have the people have to flip a sign first? or something so that when it is loud and harder to hear things, people don’t get annoyed or anything. It seems like it makes sense. I’m sure I’m not the only one to have this happen to or to notice. 

Life: Sometimes you just need a backup plan.

Life can be interesting at times. It has ways of making you laugh, smile, cry, yell, and be disappointed, yet not necessarily all at the same time.

Awesome moments allow you to be surrounded by awesome friends. Sometimes just hanging with that special someone can rejuvenate ones day, while creating great memories. Achieving good grades, accomplishing challenges that one otherwise wouldn’t think they could handle.

Then, life decides to allow things to go wrong. It causes you to realize that you are tired of being positive all the time, or seeing the sun through the darkest of clouds. Yes, I was let down recently. I was really hopeful about a job that I know I would be great at. Unfortunately I was not selected. The added disappointment was seeing others who were able to get the job I had my heart set on. I was totally crushed, became angry then jealous of friends who received what you truly wanted. I was happy for them, but at the same time crying inside “why not me?”

Despite life’s disappointments, creating a sense of sadness and aggravation, wanting to make one scream or even run away, I realize that life doesn’t end at one opportunity that wasn’t meant for me. I still have high hopes of finding the right job. I know that life will not end because of someone saying “no” to me.

Although one would think it would be easier to give up, I have chosen to rise above it all and not remain sad, disappointed or jealous of friends I love. For me, I talked it out with a few people I am able to let go and honestly share my feelings, and discovered through talking, that my feelings were real. Once I woke up and accepted that it was okay to feel the way that I did, then I needed to do something to get me out of the rut I created for myself. I took time to “pamper” me. I took out one of my favorite movies and enjoyed Dove chocolate along with an Iced Caramel Coffee. I went for a run and got a healthy dose of fresh air and exercise in. Listened to my music louder than my mom would approve, but it was what allowed me to escape. Then, I took time to hang out with my friends, steal a few hugs and relax.
Life is not going to always go the way one plans. But, when disappointment happens, it is a choice to move on past the hurt. Making the choice to move past it, makes it so that there is no room for bitterness to grow, creating a burden of self-doubt. As I write, I discovered, I don’t want to stop being positive, because with a great outlook, one can overcome many of life’s obstacles that are thrown one’s way and be a happier person.

Life Can be Crazy. Don’t Let it Get to You, Just Laugh at it & Smile

I find it quite interesting that after a huge drama situation, those who are involved or know a lot about the situation react in ways that either make the matter worse or is just plain silly. Usually I would find it rather upsetting and become quite saddened. However, I have learned to let go, forgive, and move on with my life. Sure the situation might still hurt a little bit, but why hold a grudge over something that is petty and has been drawn out long enough? 

Over break I was able to let go of last semester’s dramas and craziness. I was able to come back to school refreshed with a smile on my face, a good attitude, and a better ability to see the bright side when it looks rather dark outside. I might still be somewhat hurt, but I’m not perfect; I’m still trying to become a better person and deal with the craziness of life. 

I found that even though I was being nice and still recognizing things are not the best between me and another, it’s hard to let go for most people. Myself included.

While studying in the school’s snack bar I was able to laugh when those whom I used to know, laugh with, and spend most of my time with came in and snubbed me; they noticeably looked the other way, and were louder than usual. While continuing to focus on my homework, I couldn’t help but smile at this. I couldn’t help it because, those who were snubbing me were not even really involved in the previous issue they just knew about it. 

I don’t understand why craziness always happens. There’s always a reason and usually a lesson for everyone involved, but it’s not always fully learned. However if we try to make the best of every situation and are able to laugh at the silliness of others (as well as ourselves) then it becomes easier to be happier and deal with crazy, flustering, and silly situations. 


The True Friend Oath

The True Friend Oath

Yesterday, while home from college during winter break, I was able to have a typical girl day with my high school best friend. We did our typical out and about girl stuff: got Starbucks coffee, then went around the mall while my friend shopped, we tried on clothes, shared stories to catch up, and laughed and giggled, and listened to each other when we needed to let something out. It was quite the spiffy day!

For some time now there has been a bit of drama at school, which has made me take a step back and realize there are somethings that I need to change about myself. Even though I am doing all that I can, knowing quite well I can’t change over night, the others involved seem to not want anything to do with me. Maybe the communication still is being misinterpreted, or something. However, in the dramatic event, I was able to learn who my real friends are.

Seeing my high school best friend yesterday reminded me that she really is always there. She listens, she hears em out, is not afraid to tell me when I’m acting like a big baby and need to straighten myself out, is still my friend when I am being stupid, and knows that trying on numerous pairs of shoes will cheer me right up!

When I got home yesterday, I came across Cher Llyod’s song Oath featuring Becky G. Listening to the lyrics:

“Yo, my best friend, best friend til the very end
Cause best friends, best friends don’t have to pretend
You need a hand, and I’m right there right beside you
You in the dark, I’ll be the bright light to guide you
‘Member the times, times, times sneaking out the house
All of the times, times, times that you had the doubts
And don’t forget all the trouble we got into
We got something you can’t undo, do

Laughing so damn hard
Crashed your dad’s new car
All the scars we share
I promise, I swear

Wherever you go, just always remember

That you got a home for now and forever
And if you get low, just call me whenever
This is my oath to you
Wherever you go, just always remember
You’re never alone, we’re birds of a feather
And we’ll never change, no matter the weather
This is my oath to you

I know I drive you crazy, mm, sometimes

I know I call you lazy, and that’s most times
But you complete me, and that’s no lie
You are my tuxedo, and I’m your bow tie
We in the car, sing, sing, singing our song
Rocking the building, tear it down, like we king kong
And in my eyes, you can’t do, do no wrong
You got the best friends sing, sing along”

the lyrics really show how our friendship always has been. We don’t have to pretend how we feel about anything when we’re together or just talking via Facebook or over the phone. We can always be honest with how we feel about anything. If one of us is being a big B with a major Itch, we can tell the other. Even when we’re blunt about it, we know we’re only saying something because we care, and are worried and don’t appreciate the snarkiness; however, we understand where it’s coming from. We are able to keep each other accountable when we’re acting stupid, and need to put on our big girl pants. Even after we drive each other up the wall, we’re still there to pick the other back up when the world just shoves us down.

We always drive each other crazy, (more than sometimes! ) but it’s a mutual crazy drive. ;P

No matter what, she’s been there. She’s picked me back up and brushed the dust and dirt off and said I was still beautiful and can still shine even though the world seems rather dark at the time. When her life spins a little too fast for her, I was there to steady her when she was dizzy from it all.  When our parents are driving us crazy the other can always empathize, and also see that our parents drive us crazy because they care and love us no matter what!

For the longest time, I never knew what it was like to have a friend stay for longer than a year, even through all my personal insanities of life. I know there are times I can still be quite immature, I jump to conclusions, I don’t handle all situations as I should, and I can become quite angry quite easily.  I know that, and I need to work on it. But through all of it in high school, and through it now this friend has been there. ANd I love her (like a sister) for every part of it. She drives me up the wall, but she’s shown me, that a true friend really does stay through thick and thin. Through immaturity and craziness, through laughs and tears and screams. A true friend is there, no matter what. They know that when you’re upset, there’s a reason. They are not afraid to tell you whether it’s a stupid reason or not. They know when you need some space, when you need a hug, a friendly slap in the face, need advice, another hug, or just an ear to listen. No matter what, a true friend is just there; no matter the events.

If it was not for my true friends I met at college, and my best friend, I wouldn’t see the sun shining when my world seems like the darkness is taking over. I thank you all!

Through 2012 there were many trials and many lessons to leaner and share. Graduating from High School and starting my college journey have shown me that living in this world can be hard and quite a challenge at times. However, if you stay positive and see the bright side to life you can be much more happier. ;P

People or life in general can bring you down and you may think the world or universe just has it out for you. But if you keep your head up, and see only the good in life you can bounce back up and show the world it can try, but it will never win! ;p

I have also learned that you can fun but having a random pajama dance with your friends! Also by hanging around fun and exciting spiffy people. ;P If you hang around people that drag you down, then del you’re going to be down all of the time. However if you hang around the people that actually care about you, and are fun and see you for who you really are and know how to have fun just by hanging out with each other then you can have the time of your life [legally]!

So keep your head up everyone! If life seems a bit rough right now, well then kick box it right in the butt and say, “NO! This is my life and I’m going to be happy and surround myself with real friends and see all of the good in my life!” ;P

Stay safe, and Happy 2013 everyone!